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    farmerk Записи

    Friends

    Am I totally naive, or what?
    My idea of a friend is someone responding to a message, but my experience of a lot of my "friends" on Xhamster is zero responce. Why accept my friends request or invite me to be a friend if you are`nt planning to communicate with me when I send you a message?
    Sure, people are busy and I am not the only "friend" you have, so maybe it takes a while to get back to me - that I understand - but when people are online almost everyday and not responding after 2 weeks, I get the feeling that they just want to add friends for numbers` sake and not for friendship`s sake.
    I really appreciate those friends that do respond (and there are quite a few of you). Hope we can keep on chatting
    Опубликовано farmerk
    13 лет назад
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    sexorbit69
    Very true.... My circle of friends is limited, and I don't have time to respond immediately to everybody, at least not right away...
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    D
    I agree with you wholeheartedly. It is so frustrating. I send messages to "my friends", and nothing. However, if I don't respond to them within the minute they get pissed and worse. Speedy164, I think I will borrow a chapter from your book and kick them to the curb
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    S
    If "friends" do not read my messages to them, they will get kicked,
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    creative13
    We echo Toetapper's sentiments. We always check our messages we get from friends first and respond to them. We enjoy couples most, and we try to vet the invites to see if the person(s) matches our interests and bravery in daring to bare and share. Before friending people, for instance, we send out a pm after looking over their site and reading what they say about themselves.

    JB and I both delete friend collectors...what the fuck is the point of gathering friends, anyway???
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    R
    Some users have time only for a wank while watching a video!
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    Toetapper
    There are Friends collectors out there, and plenty of them. I accept invites from people that seem to share some common interests; I never accept an invitation from, for example, someone who has been a member for less than a year and has 800+ friends.

    I like to visit and follow my friends. I don't think I could keep track of a lot of friends. I will leave the occasional comment but rarely leave a lot of messages as I don't want to be a bother. When I receive a message, I try to reply promptly (if a reply seems needed or relevant) but it depends on how often I visit.
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    I will respond as soon as possible
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    robyngoodfello
    I think the issue is that "quiet friends" has become the norm, and many people think the only folks who chat are up to no good. I like to think at least a few good people are X-Ham. :smile:
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    Well said. I have that same problem too. Just didn't bother to articulate is as you have. Cheers, Dean
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    Milimani
    LOL. That was straight from the bottom of my heart. Exactly the same happened to us. What else to do but clear out all the 'numbers' collectors, shut down your auto-accept and let people ask you, then see how it goes over time and if you feel there might be some kind of relationship emerging... well, maybe then. Yes, we know how you feel.

    I definitely like your approach and thanks for writing it down, which, incidentally, I didn't really, I just put an update in the profile, explaining the sudden demise of most or our 'friends'. These days... what is left I guess can be called friends, well maybe more mates really but at least there is an interesting exchange going on.

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    W
    coool love y truth
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    I
    I have noticed the same thing. People send invites, you send a message saying thanks or whatever and receive no reply.
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    S
    this is so true. like a lot of real live friends that are also just "mooiweers' friends.
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