Skip the sex talk.
Your efforts result in sexual benefits for her and wonderful experiences and memories for both of you. However, if you want her to embrace cuckoldry as something she wants, sex must be last.
Instead, she must learn that she deserves this.
Start Slowly
Below are baby steps toward introducing her to cuckoldry without a big production. Each month brings a new challenge. When a step reads take a break, she will need time to accept that her actions have not damaged your relationship.
During breaks, romance her and connect with her. Tell her how much she means to you and why you love her. If she hints that she wants to have sex with you, please her but withhold your pleasure. Reassure her that you love seeing her pleased, but that you would rather wait until next time to receive pleasure. This is much easier to do if you are already in chastity.
This is the most important part of taking a break. If she shows any worry about where all this is going or whether it is unfair to you, reassure her that she is doing something positive for you.
Encourage her to follow her passions.
Month One
1. Point out when another man gives her “the look” and tell her what he must be thinking about her. Keep it PG-rated and compliment her. Choose one specific thing about her that the man was likely to notice and build her confidence in her sex appeal. Repeat occasionally until you notice a change in her demeanor and/or appearance. (Note: This change indicates that you have been effective in building her self-confidence as a sexual being.) Now you can move on to the next step.
2. Encourage her when you notice her looking at another man. Tell her how witnessing her interest in other men excites you. Again, keep it PG. If you get vulgar too early, she will shy away from all future attempts at this.
3. Take her out for drinks and dancing. Then, encourage her to dance with anyone who asks. Tell her how watching her body move in the arms of another man drives you wild.
4. Take a break.
5. Repeat next week.
Month Two
1. Ask her to share a fantasy with you. Use this as fun, flirty time. You can do this via text if she is the shy type. When you get time alone, go wild with one another. Show her how much her fantasies arouse you. Bonus: since you withheld your orgasm last time, it will be much more powerful this time, which only reinforces your message that you want to fulfill her fantasies.
2. Play a short game of truth or dare in a bar. When she chooses dare, dare her to flirt with any man of her choosing for 3 minutes. When she returns to you, kiss her passionately and discreetly place her hand on you so she can feel your reaction to her flirting with another man. If she reacts well, ask her if she wants to flirt with another man or if she would like to end the game. Respect her decision.
Month Three
1. Consider going to an adult club together — solely to watch together — and make sure you stay dressed the entire time. Take note of anyone she watches intently. Then, whisper in her ear how much you would love to see her enjoying herself with that man. Once you go home, hot and bothered, take a break.
2. Begin introducing chastity play. If you do not participate in chastity play yet, this is a perfect time to start. You have been priming her to be receptive to the idea of cuckoldry, but she will not be ready to act on that idea yet. Chastity is a subtle way to encourage her to take more interest in her desires and to show her that you want to fulfill them without expecting reciprocation.
3. Relinquish more control to her in all areas of your marriage. Ask her opinion more. Seek her advice before deciding anything. Ask for her direction with taking better care of yourself, of her, and of your home. Start with simple things and work toward the more important things.
4. Take a break.
Month Four
1. Revisit an adult club while you are in chastity. Encourage her to flirt and make out with anyone she chooses. If she wants to go further, become her cheering section, but do not go overboard to the point of pushing her beyond her comfort level. She has to want this or it will not last. Take a break when you get home.
2. Focus on her pleasure and deny yourself an orgasm nine times out of ten, or ask her to mark on the calendar when you are permitted to have your next orgasm. (Note: I do not recommend this method of chastity tracking for more experienced couples. It takes the focus off the woman and puts it on the orgasm. However, this is a simple way to start the game of tease and denial, which offers her comfort in knowing that the denial ends on an agreed upon date. Many women feel guilty denying their mates at first. This passes with time and experience. A calendar can help until guilt is no longer an issue.)
3. Consider watching a couple of well-choreographed tease and denial videos together. Tell her how much being denied arouses you. Prove it by playing the game and thanking her after she is done denying you. Note: If you have an orgasm your first few times of playing the game of tease and denial, do not be upset and thank her anyway. It takes some time to perfect the timing as the tease and to learn your partner’s body in a different way that allows for the game to truly end in denial of orgasm. You are not perfect; she need not be either.
4. Take a break.
Month Five
1. Perfect your game of tease and denial. Perhaps read a book, such as Male Chastity: A Guide for Keyholders by Lucy Fairbourne, together and highlight the areas of interest to try.
2. Take a break as necessary to keep the connection building, especially as the sexual tension builds between you.
3. Visit an adult club and play tease and denial together while there. Ask her to share a fantasy she has with one or two of the other attendees as participants in her fantasy. Let her feel and see how much the thought of her being with other men arouses you and how quickly you get close to orgasm from these thoughts.
4. Encourage her to start a flirt profile on a dating website of her choosing or on kik, twitter, or any other program she feels comfortable using. Tell her that reading her conversations with other men excites you. Take a break whenever she shares a conversation with you, but do not pester her if she chooses not to share anything, or even start a profile, yet.
5. Take a break.
Month Six
1. Watch an adult movie together that centers on her fantasies (i.e. types of men she likes, positions she favors, settings she enjoys) and focus on her pleasure while she watches the movies. Ask her to describe what is happening in the movies while you pleasure her.
2. Consider going to an adult club or meeting one of the men she flirts with, so she can stretch her legs as a sexually empowered woman. Let her set the tone for the evening and follow her lead. Encourage her no matter what happens. Praise her efforts, especially if things do not go the way you hope. Take a break.
3. Give her complete control over your orgasms — goodbye, calendar! — and ask for more responsibility around the house to make her life easier. If you have not already, this is a good time to invest in a quality chastity device. I recommend the Mature Metal brand.
4. Ask to watch her fulfill one of her fantasies with another man, in her chosen setting and with anyone she chooses. Help bring her fantasy to life. Respect her decision.
5. Take a break.
Be patient
Introducing an unsuspecting, inexperienced woman to cuckoldry is a lengthy process, but one worth the effort, if done right. These steps should take about a year to complete, if you give her time to process each step and inject some vanilla lovemaking, sensual non-sexual play and touching, and general romance—Hello, Date Night!—between the steps to keep things smooth, nonchalant, and appealing to her. You want every step to be filled with positive reinforcement, support, attentiveness to her, love, and appreciation for her as a person and as a lover.
Once you have completed the steps, you should be able to play with any of these ideas in any order, but always take a break before and after anything new and include breaks separately because she deserves it.
Instead, she must learn that she deserves this.
Start Slowly
Below are baby steps toward introducing her to cuckoldry without a big production. Each month brings a new challenge. When a step reads take a break, she will need time to accept that her actions have not damaged your relationship.
During breaks, romance her and connect with her. Tell her how much she means to you and why you love her. If she hints that she wants to have sex with you, please her but withhold your pleasure. Reassure her that you love seeing her pleased, but that you would rather wait until next time to receive pleasure. This is much easier to do if you are already in chastity.
This is the most important part of taking a break. If she shows any worry about where all this is going or whether it is unfair to you, reassure her that she is doing something positive for you.
Encourage her to follow her passions.
Month One
1. Point out when another man gives her “the look” and tell her what he must be thinking about her. Keep it PG-rated and compliment her. Choose one specific thing about her that the man was likely to notice and build her confidence in her sex appeal. Repeat occasionally until you notice a change in her demeanor and/or appearance. (Note: This change indicates that you have been effective in building her self-confidence as a sexual being.) Now you can move on to the next step.
2. Encourage her when you notice her looking at another man. Tell her how witnessing her interest in other men excites you. Again, keep it PG. If you get vulgar too early, she will shy away from all future attempts at this.
3. Take her out for drinks and dancing. Then, encourage her to dance with anyone who asks. Tell her how watching her body move in the arms of another man drives you wild.
4. Take a break.
5. Repeat next week.
Month Two
1. Ask her to share a fantasy with you. Use this as fun, flirty time. You can do this via text if she is the shy type. When you get time alone, go wild with one another. Show her how much her fantasies arouse you. Bonus: since you withheld your orgasm last time, it will be much more powerful this time, which only reinforces your message that you want to fulfill her fantasies.
2. Play a short game of truth or dare in a bar. When she chooses dare, dare her to flirt with any man of her choosing for 3 minutes. When she returns to you, kiss her passionately and discreetly place her hand on you so she can feel your reaction to her flirting with another man. If she reacts well, ask her if she wants to flirt with another man or if she would like to end the game. Respect her decision.
Month Three
1. Consider going to an adult club together — solely to watch together — and make sure you stay dressed the entire time. Take note of anyone she watches intently. Then, whisper in her ear how much you would love to see her enjoying herself with that man. Once you go home, hot and bothered, take a break.
2. Begin introducing chastity play. If you do not participate in chastity play yet, this is a perfect time to start. You have been priming her to be receptive to the idea of cuckoldry, but she will not be ready to act on that idea yet. Chastity is a subtle way to encourage her to take more interest in her desires and to show her that you want to fulfill them without expecting reciprocation.
3. Relinquish more control to her in all areas of your marriage. Ask her opinion more. Seek her advice before deciding anything. Ask for her direction with taking better care of yourself, of her, and of your home. Start with simple things and work toward the more important things.
4. Take a break.
Month Four
1. Revisit an adult club while you are in chastity. Encourage her to flirt and make out with anyone she chooses. If she wants to go further, become her cheering section, but do not go overboard to the point of pushing her beyond her comfort level. She has to want this or it will not last. Take a break when you get home.
2. Focus on her pleasure and deny yourself an orgasm nine times out of ten, or ask her to mark on the calendar when you are permitted to have your next orgasm. (Note: I do not recommend this method of chastity tracking for more experienced couples. It takes the focus off the woman and puts it on the orgasm. However, this is a simple way to start the game of tease and denial, which offers her comfort in knowing that the denial ends on an agreed upon date. Many women feel guilty denying their mates at first. This passes with time and experience. A calendar can help until guilt is no longer an issue.)
3. Consider watching a couple of well-choreographed tease and denial videos together. Tell her how much being denied arouses you. Prove it by playing the game and thanking her after she is done denying you. Note: If you have an orgasm your first few times of playing the game of tease and denial, do not be upset and thank her anyway. It takes some time to perfect the timing as the tease and to learn your partner’s body in a different way that allows for the game to truly end in denial of orgasm. You are not perfect; she need not be either.
4. Take a break.
Month Five
1. Perfect your game of tease and denial. Perhaps read a book, such as Male Chastity: A Guide for Keyholders by Lucy Fairbourne, together and highlight the areas of interest to try.
2. Take a break as necessary to keep the connection building, especially as the sexual tension builds between you.
3. Visit an adult club and play tease and denial together while there. Ask her to share a fantasy she has with one or two of the other attendees as participants in her fantasy. Let her feel and see how much the thought of her being with other men arouses you and how quickly you get close to orgasm from these thoughts.
4. Encourage her to start a flirt profile on a dating website of her choosing or on kik, twitter, or any other program she feels comfortable using. Tell her that reading her conversations with other men excites you. Take a break whenever she shares a conversation with you, but do not pester her if she chooses not to share anything, or even start a profile, yet.
5. Take a break.
Month Six
1. Watch an adult movie together that centers on her fantasies (i.e. types of men she likes, positions she favors, settings she enjoys) and focus on her pleasure while she watches the movies. Ask her to describe what is happening in the movies while you pleasure her.
2. Consider going to an adult club or meeting one of the men she flirts with, so she can stretch her legs as a sexually empowered woman. Let her set the tone for the evening and follow her lead. Encourage her no matter what happens. Praise her efforts, especially if things do not go the way you hope. Take a break.
3. Give her complete control over your orgasms — goodbye, calendar! — and ask for more responsibility around the house to make her life easier. If you have not already, this is a good time to invest in a quality chastity device. I recommend the Mature Metal brand.
4. Ask to watch her fulfill one of her fantasies with another man, in her chosen setting and with anyone she chooses. Help bring her fantasy to life. Respect her decision.
5. Take a break.
Be patient
Introducing an unsuspecting, inexperienced woman to cuckoldry is a lengthy process, but one worth the effort, if done right. These steps should take about a year to complete, if you give her time to process each step and inject some vanilla lovemaking, sensual non-sexual play and touching, and general romance—Hello, Date Night!—between the steps to keep things smooth, nonchalant, and appealing to her. You want every step to be filled with positive reinforcement, support, attentiveness to her, love, and appreciation for her as a person and as a lover.
Once you have completed the steps, you should be able to play with any of these ideas in any order, but always take a break before and after anything new and include breaks separately because she deserves it.
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